Lack of Community

The phrase "personal relationship with God" is often used to emphasize how each individual believer should grow in faithful obedience to him. We cannot say we are Christians simply because we grew up in a Christian family or have some vague beliefs about who Jesus is. One unfortunate side effect of this focus on the individual is the tendency to believe that we need no one else but God in our growth as disciples. Paul opposes this idea by emphasizing how each believer is part of the entire body of Christ, and all parts need one another:

²¹ The eye cannot say to the hand, “I have no need of you,” nor again the head to the feet, “I have no need of you.”²² On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, ²³ and on those parts of the body that we think less honorable we bestow the greater honor, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty, ²⁴ which our more presentable parts do not require. But God has so composed the body, giving greater honor to the part that lacked it, ²⁵ that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another. ²⁶ If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together (1 Cor 12:21-26).

There is simply no paradigm in scripture of Christian growth outside of community. 
For those who struggle with spiritual dryness, it is important to develop relationships outside of the weekly church meeting in a small group or bible study since it can be so easy to disappear among the crowd on Sunday. While we need to be vulnerable with others, it isn't necessary that everyone knows everything. Even Jesus shared some with the crowd who came to listen, more to the larger group of disciples who followed him, even more with the twelve, and most of all to the three: Peter, James and John. Consider sharing broadly with a small group, and more deeply with a few who have the spiritual "grid" to understand what you are going through.

In these small groups, we are able to hear from those who struggled with spiritual dryness and have come out the other side. By reading scripture with others, we are able to hear alternative perspectives on the life of faith and see how we are trying to live out ideals that don't match up to the Word of God. Perhaps most importantly, we are able to show love to others and receive love and guidance from God through the care of other believers, which is the primary way God  demonstrates his love for us. 

There are some who have spent time in toxic churches that have polluted the gospel of Christ or spiritually abused its members, and it is understandable that they are highly resistant to engaging with the church again. For these Christians, it takes time to disempower lies about who God is and who they are in God, and because of this, spiritual dryness is common for those who belonged to these churches. Those who want to get over their fear of dogs have to spend time with dogs, and those who need to heal from their time in an unhealthy church need to spend time engaging with a healthy church community again.